Our story

My name is Stephanie and I am 61 years of age. For the first half of my life, my career was as a Telecommunications Specialist. I did that for 23 years. I met my wife in 1993. We started Valencia Salon Studios, a beauty mall, in 2004. We were the Official Salon to the Phoenix Mercury, the Women’s Professional Basketball team. It was while we were there that we found out she had breast cancer. The wifey and I enjoyed a beautiful life together with all the usual ups and downs. We traveled together and spent everyday together and I’ll always remember how the years felt like the blink of an eye. So after a long 26 year friendship and love, I recently find myself widowed. Jo Ann passed on September 9, 2019.

I’ve just experienced the 2nd biggest surrender of my life. The first was getting sober at age 20. This surrender though, has been the deepest. Grief, it’s there until it’s not and definitely an organic experience.

I’m very honored to say that while she lived, we served each other well. We made a declaration that we would be present and accounted for, and we did just that for each other. So much so that when she died it felt like ‘oh! It happened’. And still, I knew I would be okay. 

In 2016, I signed on as a Lyft Driver. I drove for just about 3 years and during this time we began listening to Eckhart Tolle. We would listen to Eckhart with a nice cup of coffee in the morning for 1 hour. I listened to him all day everyday, it seemed, especially as the days passed and she became more and more physically ill. She too listened. As a result we both became much closer and our love deepened with appreciation for each other.

Most recently, I was called by a friend who shared the audiobook “Signs” by Laurel Lynn Jackson. Such a great book and definitely a great pointer to our birthright. Our spiritual beingness. As soon as it was given to me I knew this was the missing piece for completing what I was being called to take action on 90 Days to the Heart of the Matter, from lost to securely found. Together we explore our hearts, our spirits and we heal/transform from the inside out. We keep it simple, we observe our toxic thoughts, letting them disappear until the “YOU” that is grounded in Infinite Love rises.  

Infinite Love, of which we are a spark, is not defined or swayed by circumstance or by anyone or anything! Pure freedom! You Ready!?

Today, it is my healing honor to mentor those who have the cajones to take the road less traveled! This is not for wimps or whiners! It is a daily, present, conscious way of life that takes observation and intention. I know, I know… the first thought is “too much, too much!” and that very thought is what there is to master. I used to say “is it going to beat me or am I going to beat it?!”, now knowing it is my egoic mind and with some expansion under my belt, I say “is it going to master me or am I going to master it?!”. Will the Divine “I”, (our essence of Infinite Love), be allowed to master? 

What I’ve done is pull together the teachings that come through AA, Eckhart Tolle and others to point us inward. I’ve taken AA’s 90 and 90, which is for the newcomer to AA to be able to alter life as they know it. It comes from “it’s a matter of life and death”. These days you don’t need to be an alcoholic to know the pain within I speak of. Or how the pain makes it a matter of life and death (suicide need no longer be a way out). Allowing the truth of the words to penetrate our being. To listen with all our senses, our whole body, Infinite Love is speaking to you.